Saturday, 19 November 2016

Anxiety and Blogging Events

After going to a couple of blogger events, I have noticed a pattern in which my emotions and thoughts tend to wander in the lead up, and the aftermath of a blogger event. This could sound so confusing, but I really wanted to do a post in which I could just ramble on about it. This might not be the most 'optimistic' or 'happy' post - it's just my thoughts and hopefully it can help others who have a similar problem.

This is also the first time I've ever spoken about my anxiety... like ever. It feels good to get it off my chest.



I'm a part of a couple Facebook groups, filled with lots of lovely bloggers. The one I like the most is the North East Network for Brilliant Bloggers group, which has lots of like minded individuals, who post to help others out, bring forward amazing opportunities and ask for advice. A lot of the time, I see amazing event opportunities and I immediately put my name down for them and get myself excited. However, my mind seems to wander after and I start to worry. My thought process for before, during and after an event tends to go as such...

Before: 'Omg yes this looks amazing! It'll be such an amazing way to network and meet lots of other bloggers'

During: 'Wow I feel really out of place. I don't really know anyone here... Everyone seems to know what they're talking about and are so confident with meeting new people'

After: 'Why didn't I introduce myself?? Why didn't I speak to them?? They're going to think I'm a right bitch now and think I was just ignoring them'

The truth is, I'm 100% an introvert. I'm so nervous in new situations with new people and I genuinely don't know what to say to break the ice. I can't help it and I hate myself for it. I'd love it if I could just wander up to someone and be like 'Hi I'm Rebecca! How are you?' or 'Hi I'm Rebecca, I read your blog and I love it!' or something along those lines, but lo and behold, I don't. These are the kind of things I beat myself up for once the event has finished.

I definitely feel like I go into a sort of trance when I'm at an event. I get myself in a nervous and anxious state meaning I won't start a conversation over fear they think I'm strange or weird. If I've ever encountered you at an event - I swear, I'm not I'm just so anxious I don't know what to say to anyone ahah!

Even though I really enjoy myself whilst I'm there and afterwards even, and I'm always grateful for the opportunities that are offered, it's afterwords that I start to panic.

One thing that has helped me a lot is a group chat that has been created with some other local bloggers. If we are going to the same events we can arrange a time and a place to meet before hand, which helps to break the ice and chat before we go to the event. It allows me to feel a lot more comfortable around the other people attending!

If you struggle with a similar problem at events, leave a comment below with your outlook!
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  1. This is a beautifully honest post, thank you for sharing! I get so nervous around people I'm not 100% comfortable with.. I even isolate myself around people I've been going to school with for the last 7 years. It makes me look so strange but I can't help it x
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    1. Thank you so much for commenting! (Sorry for the delayed reply!) I'm honestly 100% the same!x

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  2. I totally get what you mean and having to introduce myself is one of the main reasons why I'm too scared to go to a blogging event... I'm always worried that i'm talking to people who don't want to hang out with me.
    Aleeha xXx
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